Category Archives: Book Shelf


A few years back as I sat at my office desk, gazing out of the window and wishing to escape,I longed for permission.

Permission to take the leap of faith,to go the extra mile, to risk it all and essentially DANCE – because in my mind, I knew it was time to DANCE into my season and cultivate my entrepreneurial vision.

BUT like most of us, life kept getting in the way-

Then, on Christmas 2002 – my fantabulous mother, who is a “shero” in her own right, gave me a book (Mark D. Sanders & Tia Sillers) complete with CD (Lee Ann Womack) offering the words I needed to hear —

“I HOPE YOU DANCE….Promise me you’ll give faith a fighting chance…”

Fast forward – 10 months later (2003)and a few conspiring “challenges” that would “catapult” and “inspire” me to leave that office, step into the world and become a full-time participant in my entrepreneurial life. In my decision,I did not know all the answers and was not sure of the entire plan but it all just “felt” right!

….”Because I want you to dance as you journey thru life’s good and bad times”are the words inscribed in my book from my MOM-and these are the words I offer each and everyone of you in this post…..

“I HOPE YOU DANCE” inspired by the song by LEE ANN WOMACK.

Until next time,…”I hope you never fear those mountains in the distance”


1 Comment

Filed under Arts & Entertainment, Book Shelf, Career Moves, General...Life Matters, Parenting, Relationships, Spirituality

Finding Balance In Your Life: It’s a Tao Thang


In my last post, I discussed – The TAO OF INNER PEACE

As I stand watching people in the midst intense global confusion and chaos, I can’t help but notice how people are slowly losing their ground. It seems suicides, murder, and just pure madness is in our midst. Everyone seems to be searching for some sort of peace and it seems that the current US Elections might bring some solace. While we wait for transitions and hope for the best, I’d like to, offer one more morsel of calm in the midst of the storm.

People – must remember that although we elect officials and place faith in things outside of ourselves, we must be certain that PERSONAL answers will not come from organizations, individuals and governments. We must go deep within and find our own our center and balance. We must never allow the instability and currents of a world seemingly gone wild to drown and confuse us: In a crazy sort of way, to find peace – we must give up the NEED to control –

So here’s a bit of spiritual nourishment when you’re feeling overwhelmed and looking for some sanity, think about the following words (feel free to substitute language to meet your own spiritual/comfort zone):


I now know my life is peaceful and harmonious
I lead with Tao
I listen carefully, aware of the cycles within and around me
I cooperate with them
I act with courage and confidence
I work with my team for the good of the whole.
I respect myself and the process.
I harmonize with nature and all others in my world.
I accept greater peace in my life now.
And so it is.

Peace & Blessings To You – As You Seek Balance In The Way Of Nature –

1 Comment

Filed under Book Shelf, General...Life Matters, Random Thoughts, Spirituality

It’s Veteran’s Day: Are You Ready To Fight For Your Life?

One of my favorite quotes is “There is nothing to fear but fear itself.”

What I am come to realize is that our greatest challenge is not believing in our own power. We so often surrender our greatness to others and allow people to define who we are. We accept stereotypes about ourselves and by default surrender our own being in the process.

What I do know for sure ( in the words of Oprah), is that the moment we begin to define ourselves in our own terms – the world will bow down! When I say bow down, I don’t mean it in a forced physical way – I mean it in a spiritual sort of way.

As many of my close friends might know, I describe myself as a spiritual as opposed to a religious person. That’s because I’ve found knowledge and strength by studying and reading about various religious philosophies. So one book that I have enjoyed over the years is The TAO OF INNER PEACE by Diane Dreher. There in, Dreher discusses the idea of personal acceptance and The Self-Fulfilling Prophecy. The Self-Fulfilling Prophecy says that people’s performance match their expectations or What we believe, we create.

So, as we all fight our own personal battles which might include addictions, love, finance, abuse, whatever it is – that CHANGE can only come from within. In other words, to begin your journey of transformation start out by, WATCHING WHAT YOU TELL YOURSELF ABOUT YOURSELF!

Here is an exercise – illustrated in that book from Jack Canfield, of “Chicken Soup” book series fame…

-Go To your mirror, look yourself in the eye and tell yourself things you like about You
(Keep in mind that it will feel strange because we’re so used to beating ourselves up)
-For the next week, go to your mirror at the end of the day and tell You what You appreciate about You.
(It might be that you walked a block for exercise, added one more thing to your business plan, opened the door for a stranger, made the decision to leave a negative space-whatever, it doesn’t matter)
– Finally, call yourself by name and say, “I really love you”

Now for some, this might seem a bit much – but when so many of us hear people tell us what we cannot do, or laugh at our dreams, by affirming ourselves, we might just begin to believe and GOD forbid – we might begin fulfilling our life’s purpose.

As I contemplate and salute veterans everywhere today, I think about what it means to be victorious in battle, and implore you to search deep inside and confront your personal war(s) – because you too can triumph and WIN!

So, It’s Veteran’s Day – And I Ask Once Again, Are Your Ready To Fight For Your Life?

The Tao of Inner Peace

Leave a comment

Filed under Book Shelf, Career Moves, General...Life Matters, ISM's, Spirituality

Do What You Love – Money Will Follow –

Several years back, as I continued to ponder my work/family balance, one of my oldest and dearest male friends Jafari Sinclaire Allen introduced me to Marsha Sinetar and her books.  We were sitting around discussing, life, love, friends and goals in his FABULOUS space (at the time).

In my moment of self pity, he talked about my choices, never being critical or negative and then he handed me his copy of –

To Build the Life You Want, Create the Work You Love: The Spiritual Dimension To Entrepreneuring –

Ever since that evening – I began to really consider the idea of happiness as it relates to work.

Several years later, I still hold on to that book (as worn as it may be).  Well, Jafari might not know how important that evening in Jersey City was to my transformation but it truly changed some things.

So today, I want to take this time to shout out to my long time friend in my very first post entitled “Let’s Hear It For The Boy.” Believe it or not Jafari has been my buddy since Junior High School and through it all, even if we don’t talk daily still holds a special place in mine and my family’s life.”

So, this one’s for You “Uncle Jafari” as my kids now refer to him – and thanks for being in my corner through the years!

People, I have to say that this and other Sinetar books are must have in your Entreprenerial journey (as far as I’m concerned)


To Build the Life You Want, Create the Work You Love: The Spiritual Dimension of Entrepreneuring

1 Comment

Filed under Book Shelf, General...Life Matters, Let's Hear It For The Boy!, Let's Talk Shop, Relationships, Spirituality, Uncategorized