One of my favorite quotes is “There is nothing to fear but fear itself.”
What I am come to realize is that our greatest challenge is not believing in our own power. We so often surrender our greatness to others and allow people to define who we are. We accept stereotypes about ourselves and by default surrender our own being in the process.
What I do know for sure ( in the words of Oprah), is that the moment we begin to define ourselves in our own terms – the world will bow down! When I say bow down, I don’t mean it in a forced physical way – I mean it in a spiritual sort of way.
As many of my close friends might know, I describe myself as a spiritual as opposed to a religious person. That’s because I’ve found knowledge and strength by studying and reading about various religious philosophies. So one book that I have enjoyed over the years is The TAO OF INNER PEACE by Diane Dreher. There in, Dreher discusses the idea of personal acceptance and The Self-Fulfilling Prophecy. The Self-Fulfilling Prophecy says that people’s performance match their expectations or What we believe, we create.
So, as we all fight our own personal battles which might include addictions, love, finance, abuse, whatever it is – that CHANGE can only come from within. In other words, to begin your journey of transformation start out by, WATCHING WHAT YOU TELL YOURSELF ABOUT YOURSELF!
Here is an exercise – illustrated in that book from Jack Canfield, of “Chicken Soup” book series fame…
-Go To your mirror, look yourself in the eye and tell yourself things you like about You
(Keep in mind that it will feel strange because we’re so used to beating ourselves up)
-For the next week, go to your mirror at the end of the day and tell You what You appreciate about You.
(It might be that you walked a block for exercise, added one more thing to your business plan, opened the door for a stranger, made the decision to leave a negative space-whatever, it doesn’t matter)
– Finally, call yourself by name and say, “I really love you”
Now for some, this might seem a bit much – but when so many of us hear people tell us what we cannot do, or laugh at our dreams, by affirming ourselves, we might just begin to believe and GOD forbid – we might begin fulfilling our life’s purpose.
As I contemplate and salute veterans everywhere today, I think about what it means to be victorious in battle, and implore you to search deep inside and confront your personal war(s) – because you too can triumph and WIN!
So, It’s Veteran’s Day – And I Ask Once Again, Are Your Ready To Fight For Your Life?